This year has been an extremely difficult year full of pain and loss, which I had discussed in a previous post. In these periods of difficulty, it is sometimes difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but it is there. Suffering is part of the human experience. Learning to thrive and find meaning in the suffering is to survive. While I’ve lost a lost this year, I have also learned a lot.
Living in S. Florida, it is easy to get caught up in material things and a hedonistic lifestyle. In doing so, however, material goods can take the place of experiences and people. While some people’s budget can support both, mine can’t, but that’s really not the point. The point is that learning to appreciate experiences with the people you love will help carry you through difficult times. The shared memories you create will never leave you and are priceless.
Life is seldom stable with changes both positive and negative coming rapid fire. In addition to coping with the suffering, you have to be adept at adapting to change. If you cannot adapt to the changes in your life, you cannot survive and thrive. This isn’t something that happens real time or overnight. It can be gradual or after weeks of nothing it happens all at once. The goal is to learn to how to roll with the punches and be nimble. Just like Darwin’s finches, you must adapt if you are to survive.
Surrounding yourself with people who are your champions is an absolute must. Each and every one of us needs that person that can pull us up when we’re down. A person that can remind us how fantastically awesome we are when we’re not feeling that spectacular. Of course, it is just as important to return the favor and be that champion for your friends and family.