“Orlando naturally loved solitary places, vast views and to feel himself for ever and ever and ever alone.” – Virgina Woolf.
We’re not always comfortable enough in our own skin to be by ourselves. There is real value, however, in learning to be comfortable in our solitude. I have found as I get older solitude has become more comfortable and more natural. When I was younger, I hated being alone.
Albert Einstein, one of the world’s most brilliant minds, left us some nuggets of genius on the topic. He recognize the challenge of solitude when we are young. Especially in our school years, solitude can be quite painful. As we get older, we realize how important it is for us. Consequently, he also commented on how man in general is at one and the same time both a solitary being and a social being. Every day depending on how much coffee I’ve had, I vacillate between the two. The more coffee I’ve had, the more social I am. Some would say, when I have coffee in hand, I glow.
As a mother of three kids, finding solitude has become akin to finding the holy grail. Silent contemplation is a gift of my daily commute into Broward. Set against the backdrop of an eclectic mix of music, I look forward to my 35 minutes of solitude. Of course a happy and productive life needs a mix of solitude and togetherness. One can’t find happiness in either extreme.