It’s been a calmer evening in the household after all the noise and frustration of last night. I spoke with the Assistant Principal of the boys school and feel comfortable with our plan for Goalielocks as he recovers. Also spoke to one of the Mayor’s teachers after discovering the Mayor had spelled the teacher’s email address wrong all semester. No wonder he had 0 points for his article assignments! He’s busy fixing them tonight.
Today was also tough because it’s our dear Debbie’s birthday. It’s a tough milestone for many of us. I still found myself getting choked up periodically throughout the day despite my hectic schedule. It’s been nearly a year since we lost her. Ironically, it feels like it was both seconds ago and decades ago. Time is on a weird continuum when you’re dealing with grief and loss.
We also lost a giant today with the death of Stephen Hawking. I could write for days about this brilliant mind, but that’s not his most impressive feature. Both Hawking and Debbie were given devastating, terminal diagnosis when they were far too young. While a lot of people would buckle under the diagnosis, neither of them did. Amazingly, they both choose to live to the fullest as they faced their own mortality.
When I write or say Live Like Debbie. I really mean it and I try to live it. What I mean by that is I’m trying to live my life differently by living to the fullest and treating people differently. (Not that I was some kind of asshole before or something.) Specially, my goal is to brighten people’s dY, to be helpful, to inspire and to leave people better off than when I met them. It doesn’t have to be something big, it could be a smile or a good morning while you’re waiting in line for coffee.
I miss my friend very much. It’s tough to lose a friend who is in the prime of their life. It’s tough to lose someone you love. Moreover, it’s tough to see people you love experience such a profound loss. It’s tough to explain and square how something like this happens to someone so young and vibrant. The thing is there’s really no explanation, which leads to one simple fact. Life is too short to get caught up in the small stuff, so my friends Live Like Debbie.
In honor of Debbie’s birthday, please consider donating to the Pancreatic Action Network in her honor. Pancreatic Action Network
Tonight’s song performed by the Offspring is “Gone Away.” The lyrics of this song are absolutely on point.
You ever tell your kids something, but feel like they just don’t grasp what you’re saying no matter how many times you say it? I feel like I’m talking to myself sometimes as they stare blankly back at me.
Tonight the struggle was over grades with the Mayor telling me 6th grade is hard. Well that very well maybe the case, his grade isn’t poor because he’s struggling with the material. His grade is poor because he’s not completing the homework. Unquestionably, it’s beyond frustrating when a kid’s grade falls because of a lack of effort, focus, prioritization and honesty.
I think sometimes they forget that we can see their grades as often as their teachers update them. We had a conversation about Newsela last night. My hubby and I were explicitly told that Newsela wasn’t part of his coursework. Guess what, according to Edline tonight, it is a pretty sizable part of his grade. Unfortunately, he didn’t do it regularly throughout the quarter and is now paying for it dearly.
Clearly, it was one of those nights that needed to be spent in the yoga silk with peace and serenity and no Bravo Sierra. In the meantime, the WiFi to the Xbox and Roku has been cutoff for them. Pending their final grades on Friday, both boys maybe headed to the dreaded “flip phone zone.” No more iPhone for them!
There’s something absolutely captivating about waves as they break and roll on shore. We sat for hours yesterday on a beautiful veranda overlooking Fort Lauderdale Beach. The palm trees, the beautiful blue sky and tropical waters reminded me of how lucky we are to live here (especially in March.)
The beautiful thing about the ocean is it reminds you of how big and beautiful the world really is. It’s an easy place to find peace both from within and externally. Sadly, we get to the beach quite infrequently due to our crazy schedule. Vitamin Sea, as they say, does the body, mind and spirit a whole lot of good. The sun, on the other hand, burnt me to a crisp.
Needless to say, I’m really looking forward to our beach vacation this coming week. I cannot wait to enjoy the beautiful waters of the Bahamas. Our boys, who love being on the water are convinced we need a 30+ foot sailboat. Apparently, the sun got to them. In all likelihood, they probably confused our bank account with someone who’s kids don’t play hockey.
After months of endless hockey weekends, it was a Sunday funday for us down in Fort Lauderdale. We started our day off with a mimosa filled breakfast at the Pelican Grand. It was absolutely delicious and you couldn’t find a better view if you tried. We had several mimosas and killed a bottle of prosecco.
Post breakfast the kids headed to the beach and we polished off the wine and paid the bill. The Pelican Grand has an awesome veranda with super nice chairs where you can face the ocean and continue to drink. After breakfast, I switched to water since my stomach is still not super fantastic. The view is absolutely incredible.
One of my friends lives near the Pelican Grand, so she decides to walk over with her puppy. In anticipation of meeting WL, I headed down to the beach to see what he kids were doing. Fortunately, there were no rip currents at our beach and good waves for the kids to play in. Frankly, the water is too cold to swim in, but I might be spoiled.
Goalielocks and I started to meander down the beach in anticipation of meeting up with WL & E. I should say that the weather was absolutely amazing today. We met up with WL & E, which was fun. My boys loved meeting both of them, but especially that precious puppy E.
Afterwards we headed back to the resort, I went back to my seat while the kids headed to the lazy river. The resort has a great pool and lazy river. All of our kids, had a blast in the lazy river while we hung out on the veranda. Honestly, it was the perfect way to spend first Sunday after hockey season.
We finished out our day in Lauderdale by heading back to the marina, so the kids could fish. Unfortunately, there was no bait. This didn’t, however, stop the boys. They started catching their own bait, cutting it up and rigging their poles. We watched from the comfort of RL’s awesome sailboat. Now we’re back home, a bit burnt, and tired, but feeling relaxed and happy after a wonderful day.
It was a welcomed and overdue sleepy Saturday for the first time since August. We did nothing today, but relax, grocery shop and put a dent in the laundry. It couldn’t have been a better day for it as the afternoon and evening hours were cool and rainy.
The Mayor and Hubby went down to Fort Lauderdale to fish and hangout on our friends’ sailboat. It’s a tough life. I wasn’t feeling 100% and desperately needed to get the grocery shopping and laundry done, so I stayed North. Not to worry, however, as I’ll be headed down that way tomorrow morning to collect the Mayor and enjoy a nice brunch.
Goalielocks and I hit up Kohl’s before hitting up the aquarium store. We picked up a new led light for the coral tank. Of course, it would have been foolish to think I could get out of there with just the light. We picked up another snail and a coral frag. Suddenly, we have a real nano coral tank going on. Goalielocks has done a phenomenal job setting up and managing the tank.
While Goalielocks worked to acclimate our tank’s new inhabitants, the Mayor was busy fishing up a storm in Lauderdale. After fishing they enjoyed a nice dinner inclusive of mermaids, king crab and stone crab. Meanwhile back home, we enjoyed a tasty frozen pizza. Based on the pictures and videos, it would appear he and his buddies are having an amazing time. We’re heading to bed early since we’ll be losing an hour of sleep tonight and we’re heading to an early brunch in Fort Lauderdale. Have a wonderful evening!
Oh my wonder pig, my sweet, lovable mischievous Athena, did you really eat my birthday cake? Apparently, our little Piggie princess loves herself some angel food cake. Usually this adorable creature pulls down all the food and makes a complete mess of her stolen goodies, but not last night.
No, when we all walked away, she jumped up and started eating the cake. This polite Piggie didn’t even knock down the cake, but she certainly left her mark. We should have know better to walk away when there was a temping treat within her grasp.
When it became clear there’d be no angel cake, we went back to setting up my jellyfish tank. It is going to take about two weeks to cycle before we can put the jellies in it. I can’t wait until the moon jellies are on their new home. It’s going to make for an incredibly zen space!
Meanwhile, it’s Friday night there’s no hockey and we’re fried. My stomach is rebelling while Hubby’s lower back has gone on strike. To be fair, my stomach probably decided to rebel after I didn’t get to enjoy some strawberry shortcake last night. Truly, the last couple of weeks have hellacious. Consequently, this weekend is all about getting caught up on rest, grocery shopping and laundry (mostly rest.)
Today marks the start of another trip around the sun. Yep, today I turned 27 for the eleventh time. The last has been tough, amazing, grueling and wonderful all at once. If I’ve learned anything this past year it is to appreciate the time we’re given. Even the trial and tribulations we face are gifts. The trials of the last year have certainly reminded me of the importance of living in gratitude. They also taught me to that I can’t be uncompromising with my expectations.
We celebrated tonight with a great home cooked meal. Afterwards, the boys were excited to give me my present. I had inkling as to what they bought me and o was right. My boys got me a fabulous jelly fish tank for my room. It’s the perfect addition to the space that’s already home to my yoga silk, diffuser and my yoga mat. The jellyfish tank adds a whole other level of zen to the room.
Of course, my birthday coincides with the best tournament in all of sports – the Minnesota State High School Hockey tournament. Tonight our former high school is taking on STA in the quarterfinals. The game got a late start, so I’m not sure on going to be able to follow much more than the first period.
Thanks to everyone for the wonderful birthday wishes. I definitely felt the love today! In honor of my birthday, here is Jimmy Buffett performing “Trip Around the Sun.”
It’s hump day and it’s been 1 day since the Lorbach’s have been in the ER. It almost feels like a new record after our recent run of ER visits. After all, in two weeks we’ve been to two urgent cares and three ERs. We told Goalielocks that he’s tapped out on ER visits for the year after last night. I wish the doctor visits were over, but to ensure Goalielocks’ continued we’ll be seeing a concussion expert at Children’s Hospital, his primary care doctor and a chiropractor. We’ve been so focused on the head injury that I want to make sure we rule out any injury to his neck or cervical spine that may be causing the headaches.
The fact is concussions and their ramifications are quite scary. If he were to go back to hockey too early and get hurt, it could sideline him for another 6 months, sideline him forever from contact sports or worse. He, of course, is fourteen and love his sport, so he’s anxious to get back. Fortunately, the ER doctors have been quite explicit with him about the dangers of returning too early. In the meantime, we’re treating the headaches with ibuprofen, Tylenol, rest and essential oils. (Thanks for the recommendation DA.)
Meanwhile, I’m physically, emotionally and mentally exhausting. The ER visits, worrying about a potential brain bleed (twice), being in the ER away from home, worrying about the concussion and his recovery and anticipating the medical bills has taken quite the toll. At last last night, I had the hubby with me, so I wasn’t alone in the experience or stress of it all. Importantly, the clear CT scan erased any worries about the presence of brain bleed. The CT scan provided peace of mind that was needed after the mix up in New Hampshire and Boston
Today was a much better day for Goalielocks as the ibuprofen has been very effective in controlling his headaches. Today is also my SIL’s 40th birthday. Happy birthday M! As the Mayor said in the car tonight, “There’s no way M’s 40. She doesn’t look a day over 37. ” It was super sweet. My boys love their aunt and wish we could be with her (and their cousins of course) to celebrate her birthday.
Here’s the update from the ER, there was no John Carter or Meredith Gray to be seen. I’m only kidding. When you’ve been in two urgent cares and three ERs, humor is key.
Goalielocks has been discharged from the ER. Thankfully, the CT scan showed no abnormalities or bleeding. For us it was a major relief. While they were clear in Mass General that there was no bleeding, this scan erased all doubts that Goalielocks or I had. There’s no more lingering “what if they were wrong mom” questions. Peace of mind is everything especially when it comes to your child with an injury.
The bad news is he could be symptomatic for weeks to come. Moreover, he’ll likely need some accommodations at school during this post concussion period. Additionally, our ER doctor referred him to the concussion clinic for further treatment. This way we can ensure he has a good treatment plan and that his progress is being monitored by concussion experts.
Concussions are no joke. He’ll be off the ice and out of contact sports for at least two more weeks. We’re not in a hurry to put him back out there. We want his brain to be fully healed before he hits the ice again. We’d like to thank everyone for their support and prayers.
We’re back to the ER after Goalielocks started experiencing headaches with increasing severity and frequency. In fact, he awoke at 3:30 this morning in extreme pain. It sounded like a sinus headache and it as relieved by Tylenol. It wouldn’t be odd for him to have a sinus headache given how much pollen litters just one branch of our mango tree.
Unfortunately, the headache has persisted through the day. Since what he as describing was more like a sinus headache, the Hubby took him to urgent care to rule out a sinus infection. The urgent care provider sent us straight to the emergency room.
Consequently, here were are again back to the ER. We’ve already seen the doctor and he’s had another CT scan. While it would be unusual for bleeding to show up now, it wouldn’t be unheard of so it’s worth ruling out (again.) At this point, we’ve been to two urgent cares and three ERs. Hopefully this is our last trip to the hospital!
As I write this, we’re waiting for the radiologist to review his CT scan. Once we have an update from the ER doctor, I’ll post an update. At least this time, my hubby is able to be with us as we wait in the ER. In the interim, please keep Goalielocks in your thoughts and prayers.